Duplicity
Love mingles in a place between the conscious and the unconscious, it is both involuntary and voluntary, selfless and selfish.
Sometimes you find yourself expressing an extreme fondness for a friend - one which you may initially be unaware of. You realize that the friendship has grown, and you are grateful for the times you've spend with each other.
As a child you may gaze into the eyes of a stranger you've had an amazing conversation with and that is the very moment that choose to love them as a lifelong friend.
There are times when love catches you off guard slapping you in the face with the realization that you have in fact fallen hopelessly in love with someone you can't have.
Now if love was purely voluntary - it should be easy to stop loving someone who has wronged you, or someone you can't have, but this is not the case.
If love was involuntary, then you could never choose to move on from the devastation of unreciprocated love.
Love is like a smile. You can summon one to your lips, or the ache on your cheeks could tell you that you've been laughing for too long. You could hold back a smile until it eventually breaks through your restraint.
The lesson is, whether or not it is conscious or unconscious, involuntary or voluntary, good or bad, things change and we should cherish moments while they are happening. If love is causing hardship, fret not, because it is partially voluntary. Choose to end the damage and the rest will follow suit.
Forgive yourself and don't be afraid to love again. Everybody makes mistakes, that is, after all, how we learn.
Sometimes you find yourself expressing an extreme fondness for a friend - one which you may initially be unaware of. You realize that the friendship has grown, and you are grateful for the times you've spend with each other.
As a child you may gaze into the eyes of a stranger you've had an amazing conversation with and that is the very moment that choose to love them as a lifelong friend.
There are times when love catches you off guard slapping you in the face with the realization that you have in fact fallen hopelessly in love with someone you can't have.
Now if love was purely voluntary - it should be easy to stop loving someone who has wronged you, or someone you can't have, but this is not the case.
If love was involuntary, then you could never choose to move on from the devastation of unreciprocated love.
Love is like a smile. You can summon one to your lips, or the ache on your cheeks could tell you that you've been laughing for too long. You could hold back a smile until it eventually breaks through your restraint.
The lesson is, whether or not it is conscious or unconscious, involuntary or voluntary, good or bad, things change and we should cherish moments while they are happening. If love is causing hardship, fret not, because it is partially voluntary. Choose to end the damage and the rest will follow suit.
Forgive yourself and don't be afraid to love again. Everybody makes mistakes, that is, after all, how we learn.
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