Problem solving
Life isn't a puzzle or an exam question that requires solving. Granted there are bits of it that require pure logic but most of the time, our lives consists of stories we tell ourselves. Sometimes when it comes to interpersonal relationships, I fall into the trap of thinking that there was one thing... a single point in it in which the fracture originates. Life isn't an impact analysis of failure points upon failure points. Looking back on things and breaking them apart just to look through each of thr pieces again doesn't make you less prone to doing it again. It just hurts more as you relive each moment in painstaking detail searching for the one moment when it all went wrong. With people, its never just one thing though. Its the amulgamation of many things. So stop reliving the bad, the good and the ugly. Just take new things as they are, bright and shiny - and something to learn from. Coming from me... man. This is a big deal. I always break things down. I am done